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I’m still surprised by grief, and I’m still surprised that’s true
I’m alone in a way that will never be remedied. And I’m still coming to terms with that.
Monday Meditations: Portraits of a king, Part Five: the lament
Sometimes there's great gain in asking ourselves, "What specifically do we need from God?" and then telling him what we decided!
June 22, 2025: It’s an important date, but I almost forgot why
52 years . . . and I almost forgot!
Monday Meditations: Portraits of a king, Part Four: The loyalty
David stayed true to the commitment he and Jonathan had made to each other, long after Jonathan was gone. What can we learn from such an example of faithfulness?
A voice from the past, a reflection that makes us sad—and proud
Sometimes memories from 20 years ago make us sad. Sometimes they do something more. That’s what happened for us this week.
Monday Meditations: Portraits of a king, Part Three: The friend
“I told Siri I was lonely, and she apologized. So that was nice.” But when it comes to caregivers and friendship, we all need better than ‘nice.’
Confirming today the truth of two conclusions reached long ago
These are not new thoughts to me. But now I find they’re guiding me in ways I wouldn’t have imagined.
Monday Meditations: Portraits of a king, Part Two: the enemy
The giant David faced reminds us of the giant looming large in our lives: Ugly, strong, and inspiring fear. Will God help us fight this battle, too?
Just two words, but they capture the essence of our days with Evelyn
We’re glad she seems generally healthy. But sometimes we grow weary with figuring out the diseases daily damaging her brain.
Monday Meditation: Portraits of a king, Part One: The choice
All of us know the problem with a wrong choice. And every caregiver is beset with the challenges of making many choices. Maybe that’s why we resonate with the story of Samuel’s difficult task to choose the future king.
It’s a question for every caregiver, but the answer isn’t easy
How is this moment preparing me for the opportunities to come? What will they be, and will I be ready? While dealing with today, I do well to think about tomorrow.
Learning to trust, Part 4: A man of action, a spirit of submission
Which part of Nehemiah’s pattern would you do well to imitate first?
Questions after a week with Covid: one disease, two experiences
I can tell you exactly what it meant for me to have Covid. Evelyn suffered, too, but we could only guess at how she felt.
Learning to Trust, Part 3: He obeyed God and wasn’t happy about it
In Jonah’s words of distress from the pit of his suffering, we can find help for our own prayers today.
‘Thanks to dementia’ their stories encourage me to tell my own
“Writing is an act of ego.” I’ll agree. But as readers write in response to these posts, I see how writing can be about so much more than the writer.
Learning to Trust, Part 2: When we’ve reached the end of our limits
Elijah had given his all, but still his problems kept coming. It was a situation different from—but also similar to—what caregivers sometimes face.
Facing up to ‘never’ with a task I would not have anticipated
Finally! I have quit talking about a task I was dreading. I’m struck by how I never anticipated I would do this.
Learning to Trust, Part 1: Choose Solomon’s prayer first and most
Most caregivers sooner or later will admit something close to what Solomon said to God: “I don’t know whether I’m coming or going.” All caregivers do well to repeat what Solomon sought from God next.
Sunday was my birthday number 75 (gulp!). I can hardly even admit it
Rather than deny my advance (or is it slide?) toward 80, I’ve decided to pause and take stock of what I’m learning about life from this crossroads.
The Man, The Mystery, The Meaning, Part 5: He wished them peace
We can imagine the words meant more to the disciples that day than ever before. They had likely never felt less at peace.