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Grief. Guilt. Mourning. I’m showing the symptoms, and that’s OK
I needed a friend to help me cope with my guilt about what I was feeling.
‘Nothing new’ is good enough. In fact, I’ve decided it’s very good
‘Nothing new’ is my report for the week, and I’m quite happy to write about it.
Let me see people alone at Panera today when I stop for a snack
Let me be glad about how I have shown
my resilience
at coping in ways I’d not known.
Getting better, slowly better, at knowing when things should end
As we’re forced to face one finish line after another, I have no choice but to get better at it.
A challenge for readers: Choose a word to describe my weekend
Two sets of experiences, two adjectives, and one helpful conclusion.
Remembering October 5, 2024: Her first birthday in her new home
If one picture is worth a thousand words, maybe a gallery of pictures from birthdays past can give a hint of all I was feeling this year.
I’ve been chronicling the changes without expecting more of them
Accommodating change is our weekly challenge. I know this. Why does it still shock me?
The touch I cherish. (Cherish, because it speaks of so much more)
Would we call it sad, this survival scene
with two people
who once recklessly pledged their love
for each other?
I’m fighting loneliness, and I think, I THINK, I’m winning the battle
I'm learning about loneliness in this new chapter. And many weeks, as I consider my situation, I actually apply what I'm learning!
Some forgetting I’d be just as pleased if I couldn’t remember
"Remember the forgetting" is the headline I wrote for my home page. I had no idea what I was saying.
Good grief: A weekend with lifetime friends yields a new definition
It is possible to experience happiness and grief at the same time. A weekend with lifetime friends proved it.
Embracing lament: health and hope for anyone burdened by loss
A new series of Monday meditations will give us examples to help us embrace God's gift of lament.
Two lives ending bring me questions I can only trust with God
Which is worse? To see a young life snatched away too soon? Or to watch a long life twist to a tortured end?
Navigating change is everyone’s challenge, but for me it’s different
We live in an age of constant change, even though our instinct is to resist it. But for caregivers like me, facing change is a weekly challenge.
Good people. Good question. Two words. Good weekend. Good progress
Everyone who knows about Alzheimer’s anticipates that Evelyn is not doing well. But my new friend asked about me.
Beginning with tears, ending with reflection: An old man’s pattern
I don’t know why I had tears that morning. But a story from Scripture gave me a new idea.
A trip to a scenic corner. A step in the journey that now feels new
Another family vacation without Evelyn. Wonderful—and sad.
Stanley Tucci, Italian cooking, cancer, and the meaning of life
I was getting a little bored with the book till I came to the last chapter and realized Tucci had touched something far more profound than what we’ll fix for dinner.
A popular lyric. A friend’s example. The challenge I’m facing today
The resolution to one friend’s stress could lead to deeper peace for me, too.
Marking an unremarkable anniversary with the woman I’ll never forget
For the first time in 51 years, we didn’t celebrate our wedding anniversary. But I marked the occasion in a way I’ll always remember.