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So many ‘last times,’ with more than a few moments still to savor
“I’ve eaten the last thing my mother will ever bake,” just the first of a long list of “last times” we could write. But “last times” are not unique to Alzheimer’s caregivers.
21 ways a 5-year-old and an Alzheimer’s patient are so much alike
I thought about home the whole time I was away. And it dawned on me that, although my grandson is great in every way, caring for a preschooler has definite similarities to my caregiving duties in Ohio.
Even when ‘it’ happens, I’m determined to practice gratitude
I’m learning—and I’m determined to keep learning—that joy follows gratitude, not the other way around.
It’s getting colder, time for shelter from the winter to come
Protecting from the pain and loss that comes with all of life, preserving beauty for just a little while longer. These are the tasks of every caregiver.
Happy birthday, Evelyn! Our birthday memories are a gift to me
Memories from birthdays past are a gift to ME as we celebrate again today.
‘Open hands’ . . . a picture of hope, a strategy for life
Holding tight to the past is not a strategy that brings peace. I learned an important lesson from a caregiver friend.
Sometimes God answers prayers we haven’t even thought to pray!
Before I could ask her, my friend volunteered to solve the problem I couldn’t figure out how to handle. God answered my prayer when I hadn’t even prayed it!
Building resilience: a skill it’s never too late for anyone to learn
Maybe you can use the advice from the magazine article I should have read several years ago: “The ultimate guide to building resilience so you can bounce back from tough times.”
The last time? Deciding when and how to surrender to reality
Our nurturing weekend with friends has become an annual tradition. But when will it be time for us to give it up?
‘It doesn’t matter.’ Three words to bring peace and offer perspective
I’ll count it as a blessing that one gift of caregiving is seeing life with clearer perspective.
Facing myself and our life. Am I in denial about being in denial?
“It’s easy to stay in denial,” I admitted to him with quivering voice when he gave us the test results that day. And it’s still easy. Even easier, I’m deciding, to be in denial about being in denial.
I’m coming to terms with totally new definitions for success
Not only do most Americans worship success, but they are also haunted by failure. What does this mean for the caregiver when his world is reduced to helping someone survive?
Summer break: What could be better than a visit with family?
If a picture can be worth a thousand words, maybe several pictures can take the place of the 750 or so I write here every Wednesday. Snapshots from a summer visit here . . .
The most surprising advice I’ve received: Look for the humor!
Along with the tears have come several smiles. Even living with Alzheimer’s, I’m learning to nurture a sense of humor.
Another first: a family vacation for me while Evelyn stayed home
I never would have imagined the unparalleled rugged splendor comprising this corner of the Canadian Rockies. And I never would have planned to see it without Evelyn.
The unexpected reason I’m glad to be writing these blog posts
For the sake of memory, I want to share here a couple of the unbidden tributes to Evelyn that have come from readers of this blog.
There’s no future in two little words I’m trying to put behind me
“There’s no future in going down the ‘if-only’ rabbit hole,” she told me. And now, years later, I’m coming to understand what good advice that was.
Here’s a new label caregivers can wear proudly. We are pro-life
Amid all the hubbub about abortion in the national conversation today, I’ve made a decision about myself and several others I know. Caregivers are pro-life.
Only now am I beginning to realize all the work she did for us
As I’ve taken up the duties my wife handled without fanfare, I’m almost overwhelmed with how much I took for granted.
‘Home is where the heart is,’ but I can’t always take her there
“I want to go see my parents,” she says, and I grieve a little, because the home she’s seeking just is not there.