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Sometimes God answers prayers we haven’t even thought to pray!
Before I could ask her, my friend volunteered to solve the problem I couldn’t figure out how to handle. God answered my prayer when I hadn’t even prayed it!
Shared story: ‘Whatever happens, we will see it through together’
The song doesn’t describe how our life has turned out. But it does describe the commitment I’m holding on to.
Building resilience: a skill it’s never too late for anyone to learn
Maybe you can use the advice from the magazine article I should have read several years ago: “The ultimate guide to building resilience so you can bounce back from tough times.”
Shared story: What I learned about the joy of doing mundane tasks
I really wanted to care for my dad. But I found myself with a bad attitude trying to handle all the new responsibilities. What could I do?
The last time? Deciding when and how to surrender to reality
Our nurturing weekend with friends has become an annual tradition. But when will it be time for us to give it up?
‘It doesn’t matter.’ Three words to bring peace and offer perspective
I’ll count it as a blessing that one gift of caregiving is seeing life with clearer perspective.
Facing myself and our life. Am I in denial about being in denial?
“It’s easy to stay in denial,” I admitted to him with quivering voice when he gave us the test results that day. And it’s still easy. Even easier, I’m deciding, to be in denial about being in denial.
I’m coming to terms with totally new definitions for success
Not only do most Americans worship success, but they are also haunted by failure. What does this mean for the caregiver when his world is reduced to helping someone survive?
Summer break: What could be better than a visit with family?
If a picture can be worth a thousand words, maybe several pictures can take the place of the 750 or so I write here every Wednesday. Snapshots from a summer visit here . . .
The most surprising advice I’ve received: Look for the humor!
Along with the tears have come several smiles. Even living with Alzheimer’s, I’m learning to nurture a sense of humor.
Another first: a family vacation for me while Evelyn stayed home
I never would have imagined the unparalleled rugged splendor comprising this corner of the Canadian Rockies. And I never would have planned to see it without Evelyn.
The unexpected reason I’m glad to be writing these blog posts
For the sake of memory, I want to share here a couple of the unbidden tributes to Evelyn that have come from readers of this blog.
There’s no future in two little words I’m trying to put behind me
“There’s no future in going down the ‘if-only’ rabbit hole,” she told me. And now, years later, I’m coming to understand what good advice that was.
Here’s a new label caregivers can wear proudly. We are pro-life
Amid all the hubbub about abortion in the national conversation today, I’ve made a decision about myself and several others I know. Caregivers are pro-life.
These songs are just samples of an important way I find encouragement
I’ve formed a playlist called “Comfort.” That’s exactly what I find when I play songs from it.
Only now am I beginning to realize all the work she did for us
As I’ve taken up the duties my wife handled without fanfare, I’m almost overwhelmed with how much I took for granted.
Here’s the book that changed my journey by teaching me about lament
Soon after we received the diagnosis, a friend knew I needed this book. Now I recommend it to anyone I know facing unanswered questions.
‘Home is where the heart is,’ but I can’t always take her there
“I want to go see my parents,” she says, and I grieve a little, because the home she’s seeking just is not there.
Help for you, something new, and then two updates for readers
Let me tell you about the support group I attend and HFC, the foundation that’s making it possible.
‘Thoughts and prayers’—I’ve come to believe they’re working for me
How do you pray when you’re caring for someone with a progressive, debilitating disease? How do you pray for someone else facing a diagnosis that offers little hope? And, really, why pray at all?